This Is What Sexual Harassment Looks Like

This Is What Sexual Harassment Looks Like

With the ongoing stories of sexual harassment flooding the news and our collective consciousness, there have been a lot of people—men and women alike—wondering what constitutes sexual harassment.

Is it ongoing and predatory and perpetrated only by people in a position of power? Or does it also include less overt behaviors?

Oftentimes, women are facing circumstances that they are shocked are even happening in the first place and aren’t quick to react in the moment, let alone even recognize the behavior for what it truly is. It might not be until later that day or week, when thinking back on the events that occurred that the victim thinks, “Did that really just happen?”

I Drove Myself to the ER this Week & This is why I’m Grateful.

I Drove Myself to the ER this Week & This is why I’m Grateful.

This week could not have been more of a medical mess in our house.

Things automatically get thrown off when you begin a Monday morning with a delayed school start due to snow. By the time I got both kids safely ensconced at their schools, I had just enough to run home and shower before having to pull my daughter back out of school for a physical therapy appointment. She had been having some pain for a while when she danced and we needed to take care of it with competition season coming up.

It’s 2018, Corporate America—Why Aren’t There More Flexible and Remote Work Options?

It’s 2018, Corporate America—Why Aren’t There More Flexible and Remote Work Options?

I am shocked that we still don’t have more flexibility in America in 2018.

Maybe my head has been buried in the sand. Or maybe it’s just because I’ve worked for a company that is so committed to helping people find the flexible jobs they need, that I thought there was more flexibility out there than there really is.

But my experience as someone who is currently looking for that additional side hustle is that there is still a limited amount of flexibility to be had.

I’ve written before about how I would really love to work full time at this point in my life, but I simply can’t within the rigid parameters of a 9-5 workweek. Two kids at two different schools with no busing means I just don’t have enough time that fits within the confines of a super-structured day.

Okay, Men—Why the Deafening Silence on Sexual Harassment and the #MeToo Movement?

Okay, Men—Why the Deafening Silence on Sexual Harassment and the #MeToo Movement?

First, I want to say that I am genuinely curious. I am asking this question from only the most loving and open-minded place. I am not accusing anyone of anything, and I honestly don’t want anyone to feel defensive.

I am simply fascinated by the complete and utter radio silence from the vast majority of men when it comes to the ongoing sexual harassment stories we are hearing about in the media.

And I want to understand.

Awakened Soul, Being A Lost, Hot Mess Is Better Than Being Comfortably Numb

Awakened Soul, Being A Lost, Hot Mess Is Better Than Being Comfortably Numb

There are days when I just feel lost.

Okay, if I’m really being honest, it’s most days.

I walk around as if in a haze, almost always subconsciously thinking about how lost I am. And then in the next moment, I think, how is that even possible?

How is it possible that a 48-year-old suburban mom of two, with a degree and a home and a minivan and a dinky devil dog can feel this way?

I’ll tell you how…

It’s Not You — It’s Me. I Promise.

It’s Not You — It’s Me. I Promise.

Sometimes I think it would be easier if I didn’t look like a middle-aged mom from suburbia.

Don’t get me wrong — that’s exactly what I am. And I am proud to be me.

But sometimes I think it would be easier if I looked a little more unusual. At least as unusual as I feel on the inside.

This Man has to Cancel Christmas Because of Racism

This Man has to Cancel Christmas Because of Racism

My friend Luis has to cancel Christmas this year because of racism.

Let that sink in for a moment.

I and my white privilege would never have even realized that this was a possibility in someone’s world. Until now.

This Man is Done Trying to Be ‘Man Enough’

This Man is Done Trying to Be ‘Man Enough’

A few weeks ago, I saved a video that I knew I wanted to watch when I had the time. I didn’t want to forget about it, so I put the name of the video and the speaker on my To Do list on my phone as a reminder for when I had a 20-minute break in my day to devote to it.

The video is a TED Talk called, “Why I’m done trying to be ‘man enough’.” The speaker, actor Justin Baldoni, is someone I am not familiar with but I became an instant fan as soon as he started telling his story.

3 Things to Understand When We Are Married to Someone Who Needs More Alone Time Than We Do

3 Things to Understand When We Are Married to Someone Who Needs More Alone Time Than We Do

I need lots of alone time.

Lots.

Boatloads.

For so many years, I felt odd for needing as much alone time as I do. As a child growing up, I remember aunts and uncles coming to visit and remarking to my parents about the massive amount of time I spent in my room alone. They were always so concerned about me and what that meant.

This is why Matt Lauer Broke my Heart & Pissed Me Off more than the Rest.

This is why Matt Lauer Broke my Heart & Pissed Me Off more than the Rest.

My reaction to witnessing the well-deserved comeuppance of powerful sexual harassers lately is probably the same as most people.

In the beginning—with Harvey Weinstein—it was disgust, shock, and horror. Not because I didn’t believe it could happen or even that it wasn’t happening every single day, because I knew that it could, and it was. I think the horror came from the outrageousness of the acts, how long it had been going on, and the extent to which it was covered up by those around him. I was especially naïve about that last part.

When My Soul Wants to Give Up — It’s Time To Breathe, Retreat & Lick My Wounds

When My Soul Wants to Give Up — It’s Time To Breathe, Retreat & Lick My Wounds

I cannot do it anymore.

I cannot be everything to everyone,

While my own Self is gone.

If I am not returning your phone call,

It’s not because I am avoiding you,

It’s because I can’t breathe.

7 Things I Want to Teach my son as he Grows from a boy to a Man

7 Things I Want to Teach my son as he Grows from a boy to a Man

I have a 10-year-old son and as a mom, I have been struggling lately with what I should be teaching him as he grows up and becomes a man.

I am almost constantly overwhelmed and feel completely inept as a parent. That’s no secret. (I often refer to myself as World’s Okayest Mom.) But with my daughter, I feel like I have a fighting chance, at least. I’ve been there. And I have personal experience with at least some of the things that she is going through, or might go through at some point.

But boys? I got nothing.

I worry that I want him to stay my little boy forever and I won’t teach him the things that he needs to learn, as I cling so much to the cuddly boy he is now.

How Many Side Hustles does it Take to Make a Career

How Many Side Hustles does it Take to Make a Career

Five, that’s how many.

No—six! Because I’m still looking for one more.

Have you seen those articles? The ones that encourage you to pick up a side hustle while you’re working your main job?

It could be that you are still in the beginning stages of working towards your dream career while working your steady 9-to-5 job, and your side hustle is the passion project you do on the side. Or it could be that you’re already working your dream job, but you need a side hustle to keep things afloat while that dream career starts to pull its own weight in the payday department.

The Writing Technique I had never heard of & why it is Rocking my World.

The Writing Technique I had never heard of & why it is Rocking my World.

Recently, I heard about a writing technique called “The Kitchen Timer Technique.”

For those of you fully ensconced in the world of writing, it might be old news. But for me—a busy mom and editor whose writing time is precious and scarce—it was revelatory.

I first heard about this technique from Lauren Graham in her book, Talking as Fast as I Can. In it, she describes her own process for writing her book and trying to find the time to write. A friend and colleague, screenwriter Don Roos, shared this technique with her as a way to help her accomplish more in the limited time she had.

When the Man in Front of Me Simply Wants to be Seen.

When the Man in Front of Me Simply Wants to be Seen.

Several weeks ago, I needed to run an errand that took me into the city, where I had an experience that I am still thinking about…and having a hard time shaking.

Since I live about 25 miles outside the downtown Denver area, it’s not often that I have a need to go there, aside from arts and cultural events, or the occasional evening or weekend away. In fact, it’s not often I need to leave the confines of my Mayberry-like suburban town at all. (Or maybe it’s just that all the shuttling of my kids leaves me with precious little time to even think about venturing out further.)

A New and Unexpected Season of Work-Life Balance.

A New and Unexpected Season of Work-Life Balance.

I have come to a season in my life where the phrase “work-life balance” has suddenly taken on a whole new meaning—one I never expected.

A lot of people don’t even like that phrase, work-life balance, since the word “balance” can make it sound like the ultimate goal is to achieve a perfect balance of both work, and the rest of our daily lives. But anyone who has spent any amount of time juggling the different areas of their life, learns very quickly that there will never be a perfect balance.

The Amazingly Unapologetic Woo-Woo-ness of a Falling Leaf---and Me.

The Amazingly Unapologetic Woo-Woo-ness of a Falling Leaf---and Me.

Today, I sat in my sun-warmed car, surrounded by falling leaves, tropical bird sounds, and sadness.

I had an unusual hour of free time after the three hours of errands I had run, and before I needed to pick up my daughter from school. I was close to her school and since it was a beautiful fall day, I tried to think of a park I could enjoy, but I didn’t know of any in the immediate area.

5 Inspiring Social Entrepreneurs who are Making the World a Better Place.

5 Inspiring Social Entrepreneurs who are Making the World a Better Place.

I’ve always been especially inspired by entrepreneurs who have an undeniable urge to make the world a better place. Socially-conscious business owners who are driven more by being of benefit to others than they are by the the bottom line. Who know what their “Why” is and are compelled by it so much so that they develop their career—and sometimes even their lives—around that mission.

I recently went on a web-quest to find some of those socially-minded people who are changing the world, and was so inspired and uplifted by their stories, I wanted to share them with you.