This is the first time I’ve ever seen a video by Christian Hull, and I could not stop laughing.
I lost track of how many of these rang true for me about halfway through the video, but I’m sure everyone who’s raising boys will recognize themselves…
She’s been called the queen of remote work.
And she knows that finding meaningful work that actually fits in with our lives and allows us the flexibility we need on a daily basis can feel almost impossible.
She would also be the first person to tell you that it’s not.
Sara Sutton Fell is the founder and CEO of FlexJobs. And this woman is fierce.
What happens when men in a United Kingdom pub are asked to pay an 18% surcharge on their purchases to make up for the gender pay gap?
A lot of funny reactions.
UK publication, Stylist, recently undertook this eye-opening experiment.
With the ongoing stories of sexual harassment flooding the news and our collective consciousness, there have been a lot of people—men and women alike—wondering what constitutes sexual harassment.
Is it ongoing and predatory and perpetrated only by people in a position of power? Or does it also include less overt behaviors?
Oftentimes, women are facing circumstances that they are shocked are even happening in the first place and aren’t quick to react in the moment, let alone even recognize the behavior for what it truly is. It might not be until later that day or week, when thinking back on the events that occurred that the victim thinks, “Did that really just happen?”
This week could not have been more of a medical mess in our house.
Things automatically get thrown off when you begin a Monday morning with a delayed school start due to snow. By the time I got both kids safely ensconced at their schools, I had just enough to run home and shower before having to pull my daughter back out of school for a physical therapy appointment. She had been having some pain for a while when she danced and we needed to take care of it with competition season coming up.
I am shocked that we still don’t have more flexibility in America in 2018.
Maybe my head has been buried in the sand. Or maybe it’s just because I’ve worked for a company that is so committed to helping people find the flexible jobs they need, that I thought there was more flexibility out there than there really is.
But my experience as someone who is currently looking for that additional side hustle is that there is still a limited amount of flexibility to be had.
I’ve written before about how I would really love to work full time at this point in my life, but I simply can’t within the rigid parameters of a 9-5 workweek. Two kids at two different schools with no busing means I just don’t have enough time that fits within the confines of a super-structured day.
First, I want to say that I am genuinely curious. I am asking this question from only the most loving and open-minded place. I am not accusing anyone of anything, and I honestly don’t want anyone to feel defensive.
I am simply fascinated by the complete and utter radio silence from the vast majority of men when it comes to the ongoing sexual harassment stories we are hearing about in the media.
And I want to understand.
I know a lot of adults say that when fully immersed in the responsibilities and obligations that come with adulthood. We joke about how we want to run away way more as adults than we ever did as children. We kid around with each other about running off to a beach somewhere and never coming back.
But, I’m not joking.
There are days when I just feel lost.
Okay, if I’m really being honest, it’s most days.
I walk around as if in a haze, almost always subconsciously thinking about how lost I am. And then in the next moment, I think, how is that even possible?
How is it possible that a 48-year-old suburban mom of two, with a degree and a home and a minivan and a dinky devil dog can feel this way?
I’ll tell you how…
A few weeks ago, I saved a video that I knew I wanted to watch when I had the time. I didn’t want to forget about it, so I put the name of the video and the speaker on my To Do list on my phone as a reminder for when I had a 20-minute break in my day to devote to it.
The video is a TED Talk called, “Why I’m done trying to be ‘man enough’.” The speaker, actor Justin Baldoni, is someone I am not familiar with but I became an instant fan as soon as he started telling his story.
I need lots of alone time.
For so many years, I felt odd for needing as much alone time as I do. As a child growing up, I remember aunts and uncles coming to visit and remarking to my parents about the massive amount of time I spent in my room alone. They were always so concerned about me and what that meant.
My reaction to witnessing the well-deserved comeuppance of powerful sexual harassers lately is probably the same as most people.
In the beginning—with Harvey Weinstein—it was disgust, shock, and horror. Not because I didn’t believe it could happen or even that it wasn’t happening every single day, because I knew that it could, and it was. I think the horror came from the outrageousness of the acts, how long it had been going on, and the extent to which it was covered up by those around him. I was especially naïve about that last part.
I have a 10-year-old son and as a mom, I have been struggling lately with what I should be teaching him as he grows up and becomes a man.
I am almost constantly overwhelmed and feel completely inept as a parent. That’s no secret. (I often refer to myself as World’s Okayest Mom.) But with my daughter, I feel like I have a fighting chance, at least. I’ve been there. And I have personal experience with at least some of the things that she is going through, or might go through at some point.
But boys? I got nothing.
I worry that I want him to stay my little boy forever and I won’t teach him the things that he needs to learn, as I cling so much to the cuddly boy he is now.
Five, that’s how many.
No—six! Because I’m still looking for one more.
Have you seen those articles? The ones that encourage you to pick up a side hustle while you’re working your main job?
It could be that you are still in the beginning stages of working towards your dream career while working your steady 9-to-5 job, and your side hustle is the passion project you do on the side. Or it could be that you’re already working your dream job, but you need a side hustle to keep things afloat while that dream career starts to pull its own weight in the payday department.
Recently, I heard about a writing technique called “The Kitchen Timer Technique.”
For those of you fully ensconced in the world of writing, it might be old news. But for me—a busy mom and editor whose writing time is precious and scarce—it was revelatory.
I first heard about this technique from Lauren Graham in her book, Talking as Fast as I Can. In it, she describes her own process for writing her book and trying to find the time to write. A friend and colleague, screenwriter Don Roos, shared this technique with her as a way to help her accomplish more in the limited time she had.
Several weeks ago, I needed to run an errand that took me into the city, where I had an experience that I am still thinking about…and having a hard time shaking.
Since I live about 25 miles outside the downtown Denver area, it’s not often that I have a need to go there, aside from arts and cultural events, or the occasional evening or weekend away. In fact, it’s not often I need to leave the confines of my Mayberry-like suburban town at all. (Or maybe it’s just that all the shuttling of my kids leaves me with precious little time to even think about venturing out further.)
I have come to a season in my life where the phrase “work-life balance” has suddenly taken on a whole new meaning—one I never expected.
A lot of people don’t even like that phrase, work-life balance, since the word “balance” can make it sound like the ultimate goal is to achieve a perfect balance of both work, and the rest of our daily lives. But anyone who has spent any amount of time juggling the different areas of their life, learns very quickly that there will never be a perfect balance.